The importance of sex in a marriage often declines over time as the intensity of love’s first flush fades and settles into an easy familiarity with each other. But whether you have been married one year or fifty, sex is still an important part of the equation.
Why is having sex with your husband or wife so important?
Sex creates intimacy in a relationship. Lovers behave differently with each other than friends do. They have crossed into an intensely physical relationship and this takes their relationship to a different level. Having sex with another person means allowing yourself to be vulnerable and it is based on this that a deeper connection is able to be formed. And continuing to be intimate with your spouse in a sensual way helps to keep that connection that initially drew you together strong. Problems can be eased through touch, wounds mended.
There is often an unwillingness to address the importance of sex in a Christian marriage. But all marriages need a healthy sex life to prosper.
But as a relationship ages, sex drive often falters. Sex drive? What sex drive? Has your sex life been a non event this month? This year? Its not like you aren't interested but well, it's just finding time amongst all the chaos that is your life. There are so many things claiming your attention: work, looking after your home, exercising, food shopping, making meals, laundry, children, family obligations, social events, ironing! Its no surprise that when you do lie down you're out within minutes. Or the time isn't right. Or you just can't be bothered. Maybe a month passes before you realize that you can't remember the last time you made love let alone the last time you kissed your partner and I mean really kissed them, not just a polite peck.
Or maybe you've just fallen into a rut. You make love in the same place at roughly the same time week in week out and do the same things. Routine is good for things like brushing your teeth but it shouldn't come into your lovemaking when variety and excitement are crucial elements in making it fulfilling.
Increasing your sex drive isn't rocket science. But neither will it just happen because you wish it. You have to take an active approach to getting the most out of your sex life.
Sex can be a great form of stress relief. You only have to look at couples that argue and then have passionate sex to make up. They do this not only to soothe over the friction caused by the argument but also as a way of releasing the tension that has built up during the disagreement.
But sexual problems do arise, particularly when the sex drive of the husband or wife is higher or lower than their partner’s. While it is easy to brush those differences aside and act as if they don’t matter, it can cause significant friction and is often best addressed directly. There are many sex tips which can help alleviate these kinds of problems. But like anything it isn't going to just improve all by itself, you have to take action and test a few of them out to find out what works for you.
Lets look at what your choices are for enhancing your sex life. You could go and see a professional for sex counselling, sex exercises or sex training. Or workout a shopping list of sex products that you’d like to try. Maybe you think something more serious is wrong and decide to book an appointment with your doctor. You could click on one of those emails the offer to enhance your sex life through taking tablets. Perhaps you feel like you need to go back to basics and pick up a copy of the ‘Idiots Guide to Sex’. Or maybe you feel that your technique is lacking and a laundry list of sexual exercises to do will sort you out.
Whatever your preference, it is worth taking the time to consider all your options and find a solution that is right for you and your relationship. Your marriage could depend on it!
This site is all about providing you with information about your choices when it comes to improving your sex life. Here you will find sex tips, advice, product information and much more.
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